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  • Darrenchoo
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    • 22 Jul `08, 4:29PM

      have any of u experienced this with ur gf/bf?

      quarrelling over the smallest of matters? like something that isnt even worth quarrelling about can snowball into shouting fits and cold wars?

      if this happens constantly what does this mean? does it simply mean that one person has extremely bad temper? or does it mean that u dont love each other le? during courtship, the gal was like xiao mian yang (demure little sheep) then when become gf everything also wan to jump at u =(

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    • 22 Jul `08, 4:51PM

      one party may think is nothing
      the other party may think it's a big thing

      and tts precisly why quarrel

  • Devil1976
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    • 22 Jul `08, 4:54PM
      Originally posted by Darrenchoo:

      have any of u experienced this with ur gf/bf?

      quarrelling over the smallest of matters? like something that isnt even worth quarrelling about can snowball into shouting fits and cold wars?

      if this happens constantly what does this mean? does it simply mean that one person has extremely bad temper? or does it mean that u dont love each other le? during courtship, the gal was like xiao mian yang (demure little sheep) then when become gf everything also wan to jump at u =(

      Hmm...

  • mistyblue
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  • BadzMaro
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    • 22 Jul `08, 5:00PM
      Originally posted by Darrenchoo:

      have any of u experienced this with ur gf/bf?

      quarrelling over the smallest of matters? like something that isnt even worth quarrelling about can snowball into shouting fits and cold wars?

      if this happens constantly what does this mean? does it simply mean that one person has extremely bad temper? or does it mean that u dont love each other le? during courtship, the gal was like xiao mian yang (demure little sheep) then when become gf everything also wan to jump at u =(

      cause they know they got you by the balls already.

  • cuddles
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    • 22 Jul `08, 5:09PM

      the differences between mars and venus.

      if everyone see things the same way, life would be monotonous won't it?

  • mother-of-pearl
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    • 22 Jul `08, 5:12PM

      Hmm, sometimes it happens…
      Well, jus let each other have some peace n talk abt it after both calm down loh. Anger gets a conversation nowhere de.

      Trust me, this method works .. at least it does when i on war with him…

      Dun blame the problem, work out a solution together. ...

  • Gosu.
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    • 22 Jul `08, 5:19PM
      Originally posted by FireIce:

      one party may think is nothing
      the other party may think it's a big thing

      and tts precisly why quarrel


      She's right! You always have to act like it's a big thing even if it's not and persuade him/her that it's a small thing in the end and make out/up.

  • Gosu.
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    • 22 Jul `08, 5:22PM

      But my point is that you should try to know your spouse priortises AKA Be sensitive. 

  • Fantagf
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  • technoboy
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    • 22 Jul `08, 7:17PM

      Because one party loves the other too much?

      That's what happened to me and we broke up. icon_lol.gif

  • reservistsianz
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  • 00king00
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    • 22 Jul `08, 8:40PM

      i think such fights make r/s weaker , cos it highlights one fundamental prob ==>

      both are stubborn.. a real 'connected' couple will be able to resolve such issues easily cos they understand each other so well that each will know when or how to compromise.

      in contrast, when neither party is willing to giv in, that's when the disagreement escalates

  • N0body
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    • 22 Jul `08, 8:48PM

      Quarrel over small things is because humans tend to demand more from their loved one.

      higher expectations and lower patience towards loved one.

      this is human nature…

      but deep in their hearts they still care for each other

  • T.Ryousuke
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  • Yohoro
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    • 22 Jul `08, 9:57PM
      Originally posted by N0body:

      Quarrel over small things is because humans tend to demand more from their loved one.

      higher expectations and lower patience towards loved one.

      this is human nature…

      but deep in their hearts they still care for each other

      Very true. SIgh.

  • vvclub
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    • 22 Jul `08, 10:01PM

      male thinks differently from females, we feel differently oso, so must quarrel to iron out these differences mah. But better quarrel during courtship otherwise the husband don't listen after marriage.

  • Darrenchoo
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    • 22 Jul `08, 10:49PM

      sigh. today whole day quarrel with me again. reply late she sian sian. she say she bored and want to sleep, then i let her sleep she also angry. what is up with women?!

  • mrwonderful
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    • 22 Jul `08, 11:44PM

      better to quarrel now before get married. u can see her true colours.

      some women very good at hiding their temper until engaged or married. by then u are fucked.

      if you spot your gf glaring a lot its a bad sign.

      i heard hainanese women have bad temper

  • Fantagf
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  • BrUtUs
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    • 23 Jul `08, 12:55AM
      Originally posted by Darrenchoo:

      have any of u experienced this with ur gf/bf?

      quarrelling over the smallest of matters? like something that isnt even worth quarrelling about can snowball into shouting fits and cold wars?

      if this happens constantly what does this mean? does it simply mean that one person has extremely bad temper? or does it mean that u dont love each other le? during courtship, the gal was like xiao mian yang (demure little sheep) then when become gf everything also wan to jump at u =(


      norm la... maybe u need another type of approach when it comes to ur r/s...

  • Darrenchoo
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    • 23 Jul `08, 10:32AM

      what other approach? she always say i dont care about her and dont know how to sweet talk her. but i already apologize and i didnt mean it what. im not like other guys with a glib tongue. anyway, y must i always be the one giving in?

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